When you’re divorced, single, or widowed, celebrating Valentine’s Day can feel a little bit more like surviving Valentine’s Day. But there’s no reason you can’t enjoy yourself just because it’s February 14th. Here are our best Valentine’s Day ideas for single women, divorcees and widows, whether you spend it alone or with your best girlfriends.
1. TREAT YOURSELF
That’s right. Give yourself permission to splurge on something special. You deserve it!
2. PLAN A (NON-ROMANTIC) GETAWAY
Grab the girls and whisk yourselves off on a weekend trip. Stay at a nice B&B, sunbathe on a beach, see a concert, go to a winery—you get the idea.
3. TAKE A CLASS
Cooking, pottery, flower arranging, photography, sign language—there’s something for whatever you’re into.
4. SCHEDULE A SPA DAY
If you need an excuse for an all-day pampering spree, Valentine’s Day is it.
5. GO OUT WITH THE GIRLS
It’s true what they say: Girls have more fun. Even when you’re in a relationship, spending Valentine’s Day with your female friends is just a good idea. Make reservations at a fun restaurant, then go sing karaoke at a bar—no guys allowed!
6. … OR INVITE THEM OVER
Throw a full-blown Galentine’s Day party, or keep it simple with cocktails. Play board games, build a fort, dance, or put on a movie (whether it’s a romantic comedy or a horror flick).
7. HAVE A “BLIND DATE WITH A BOOK” WHITE ELEPHANT EXCHANGE
Some of the best dates are the ones spent inside a good story. We love the idea of a “Blind Date With a Book,” which bookstores all over the world have started doing for February 14th. Sure, you can order a mysterious novel online, but how cool would it be to wrap up your favorite and exchange with your friends?
8. SPEND IT WITH THE KIDS
If you’re divorced with kids, show them that Valentine’s Day doesn’t just have to be about romantic love. Bake Valentine’s Day cookies together and deliver to friends and family, go bowling, see a movie, visit a museum, or do whatever it is you love to do as a family.
9. OFFER TO BABYSIT
If you don’t have kids or plans, make a friend or sister’s day by offering to watch hers while she goes out for a (probably much-needed) date night with the hubby.
10. GET YOUR CRAFT ON
Haven’t you heard? Knitting is cool again. There are so many cute DIY ideas on Pinterest, and working with your hands is energizing.
Still feel like spreading the love? Sign up to work a shift at a food pantry, soup kitchen, or animal shelter.
12. MAKE A DONATION
On a day of hearts, support a charity or organization with a cause near and dear to your own heart, whether it’s the American Red Cross, St. Jude Children’s Hospital, your local domestic violence shelter, or your church.
13. BE ACTIVE
Studies show that nearly any kind of physical activity makes you more likely to be happy, so get that blood pumping. Take a yoga or spin class, ride your bike, or sign up for a marathon.
14. OR, DO ABSOLUTELY NOTHING
It can be such a joy to have nowhere to go and no one to see. Soak up all that alone time (especially if your ex has the kids). Take a bath, read a book, order food, and binge your favorite TV shows.