One of the most important things you will ever learn in life is how to be fully and unapologetically yourself. However, in a society with lots of looming negativity, sometimes that can be quite a challenge. For one girl, she was dedicated to doing everything her boyfriend demanded, despite the fact he was never satisfied. It wasn’t until they were broken up that her eyes were opened.
She wrote an open letter explaining the changes she had gone through, and everything that she had learnt. We think the open letter is something everyone should read:
“You always told me
I didn’t look good with long hair and that you preferred girls with short
hair. So I kept my hair cut above my shoulders at all times.
You laughed at me
and told me I looked ridiculous when I dyed my hair red when we were
together. So a week later I dyed it back blonde.
You would always point out if I was wearing too much makeup. (Winged eyeliner and mascara most of the time). So I just stopped wearing it.
You told me tattoos and piercings were tacky and ugly and would try to take out my belly button ring every time you saw it. So I took out my piercings and didn’t get any more tattoos.
You pointed out my stretch marks every chance you got. So I did my best to keep them hidden. You pointed out every single flaw I had. So I lost every bit of confidence I had.
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I did everything I
could to be what you wanted. I did everything you told me to do. It still
wasn’t good enough. You left me for a younger prettier girl. Someone you could
mold and shape into what you wanted. Like you tried to do with me. And up until
a few months ago, I blamed myself for everything that happened. You blamed me
But finally, I
started to see the truth. You weren’t out of my league. I was out of yours. I
wasn’t the one who wasn’t good enough for you. You were the one who wasn’t good
enough for me. You couldn’t accept me for who I was. When I took you the way
So now here I am a few months later. My hair is past my shoulders. My hair is bright red. I’ve got a new tattoo. New piercings. Started wearing makeup again. I eat whatever I want whenever I want and weigh 135 pounds. I still have my stretch marks.
And I’ve finally
gotten my confidence back. I finally see myself looking back at me when I look
in the mirror.
It’s so hard for me
to come out about this and admit that I became so vulnerable because of one
guy. Something I always said would never happen. It’s humiliating to even think
about how low I got. But what gives me the guts to come out about this is the
fact that I overcame it and I’m finally back to who I really am. – Feeling
that you are made in the image and likeness of God and you are just perfect the
way you are.
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