Having a good sense of humour is one of the principal requirements in most relationships, so much so that some people consider a lack of it to be a total deal-breaker. But can you really imagine being in a relationship without any laughter between you and your other half?
According to one study, making fun of your partner can actually strengthen a relationship – as long as you’re both laughing.
Of course there is a line that definitely should not be crossed. When we say making fun of your partner, we are talking about laughing at a silly outfit, funny haircut or a certain mispronunciation. This does not include hurling abuse at one another, making snide comments to put each other down or anything that could be hurtful to each other.
According to Joyscribe, Jeffrey Hall from the University of Kansas conducted 39 studies involving over 15,000 people over the course of 30 years.
From his studies, he concluded that humour was a critical part of building a successful relationship. More specifically, Hall goes on to explain that partners should share a similar sense of humour to get the best results from a relationships.
In a statement, Hall explained, “People say they want a sense of humour in a mate, but that’s a broad concept. That people think you are funny or you can make a joke out of anything is not strongly related to relationship satisfaction.
What is strongly related to relationship satisfaction is the humour that couples create together. Say you and your partner share a quirky sense of humour, but romantic comedies or sit-coms do nothing for either of you… It’s not that any style or a sense of humour is any better or worse.
What matters is that you both see quirky humour as hysterical. If you share a sense of what’s funny, it affirms you and affirms your relationship through laughter.
Playfulness between romantic partners is a crucial component in bonding and establishing relational security. Particularly shared laughter, is an important indicator of romantic attraction between potential mates.”
“Having an aggressive sense of humour is a bad sign for the relationship in general, but it is worse if the style of humour is used in the relationship. If you think that your partner tells mean-spirited jokes, then it’s likely you’ve seen that firsthand in your relationship.” He added.