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Mom Mocked For “Spoiling” Baby With Down’s Syndrome – Writes Amazing Letter

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Mom Mocked For “Spoiling” Baby With Down’s Syndrome – Writes Amazing Letter

At the very least, it can be very rude and annoying when strangers feel they have the right to jump into someone’s life and judge, give an opinion or make unwanted assertions. Sadly, for one mom, this has become something she experiences on the regular.

Kelly and her husband have adopted two children with Down’s syndrome, and often she is approached by strangers who have a thing or two to say about her kids.

One day, Kelly was carrying her young daughter in a baby carrier while shopping at a Target. As she browsed the shelves, she was stopped by a woman who had something to say about her little girl.

Kelly and her husband have adopted two children with Down’s syndrome, and often she is approached by strangers who have a thing or two to say about her kids.

Kelly and her husband have adopted two children with Down’s syndrome, and often she is approached by strangers who have a thing or two to say about her kids.

The woman reportedly said that carrying her daughter, Grace, would “spoil” her and prevent her from becoming independent. Kelly was shocked and understandably irked. Not wanting to react ungraciously in the heat of the moment, she simply smiled and walked away.

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When she got home, Kelly sat down and wrote an open letter to the woman and all other people who judge her. Her words are so powerful that we believe everyone should see them.

Dear Woman in Target,

“I’ve heard it before, you know. That I “spoil that baby”. You were convinced that she’d never learn to be “independent”. I smiled at you, kissed her head, and continued my shopping.

If you only knew what I know.

If you only knew how she spent the first ten months of her life utterly alone inside a sterile metal crib, with nothing to comfort her other than sucking her fingers.

If you only knew what her face looked like the moment her orphanage caregiver handed her to me to cradle for the very first time–fleeting moments of serenity commingled with sheer terror. No one had ever held her that way before, and she had no idea what she was supposed to do.

The woman reportedly said that carrying her daughter, Grace, would “spoil” her and prevent her from becoming independent.

The woman reportedly said that carrying her daughter, Grace, would “spoil” her and prevent her from becoming independent.

If you only knew that she would lay in her crib after waking and never cry–because up until now, no one would respond.

If you only knew that anxiety was a standard part of her day, along with banging her head on her crib rails and rocking herself for sensory input and comfort.

If you only knew that that baby in the carrier is heartbreakingly “independent” –and how we will spend minutes, hours, days, weeks, months, and years trying to override the part of her brain that screams “trauma” and “not safe”.

If you only knew what I know.

If you only knew that that baby now whimpers when she’s put down instead of when she is picked up.

“Spoiling that baby” is the most important job I will ever have, and it is a privilege.

“Spoiling that baby” is the most important job I will ever have, and it is a privilege.

If you only knew that that baby “sings” at the top of her lungs in the mornings and after her nap, because she knows that her chatter will bring someone to lift her out of her crib and change her diaper.

If you only knew that that baby rocks to sleep in her Mama’s or her Papa’s arms instead of rocking herself.

If you only knew that that baby made everyone cry the day she reached out for comfort, totally unprompted.

If you only knew what I know.

“Spoiling that baby” is the most important job I will ever have, and it is a privilege. I will carry her for a little while longer–or as long as she’ll let me–because she is learning that she is safe. That she belongs. That she is loved.

If you only knew…”

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